Us

We have been married for six great years and have two wonderful daughters. We have been rich, we have been poor, we have been civilian and military, we have had two jobs with no kids and no jobs with two kids. We've moved six times in six years – literally from one corner of the US to the other. We have experienced most of the situations that cause couples to fight, and yet we haven’t. Ever.

Our Relationship Philosophy

That is not to say we meet eye to eye on everything. We are two very different people with very different backgrounds, but our relationship is at the core of our lives. Since we have made it the most important thing to us, it only makes sense that we spend time working on it. Believe us, we spend a great deal of time working on our relationship and communication skills. Men and women are different, not better or worse; they are simply different. Learning to talk with, and listen to, one another is a difficult and highly rewarding skill.

Our Goal

Our goal is to raise responsible children in a loving family who feel secure. We live by example and don’t expect anything from our children that we don’t do ourselves, and we mean ANYTHING.

Our Gift

We have been given a gift, from God, that creates a passion for developing and maintaining healthy relationships in our lives, and in the lives of others.

We aren't super-human nor did we come into this relationship with perfect backgrounds; we just work at it every day. Heather came from a history of both verbal and sexual abuses and was well versed in the ways of verbal combat. Brad is the oldest of four boys and a former Airborne Ranger; he never had much use for “feelings”.

Our communication was frustrating in the beginning, to say the least. We have spent the past six years studying each other and striving to meet each other's needs. Over the years we have worked with many other couples and have even been asked to speak publicly on the success of our relationship.

We are grateful to have been given the opportunity to share our story and advice through this site. We hope that our experiences can help the readers of Love and Learn to hone and shape their relationships into their own personal success.

– Brad & Heather