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How do I get over an infidelity?

Dear Panel,

I've been going out with my boyfriend for over 5 years, and in June last year we bought a house together. The thing is in February of this year, he went out with work on a 'works do' and ended up sleeping with one of the girls from work,  I thought that the relationship was going fine but obviously not. When he told me a week later I didn't know what to do, I was really confused, I didn't even cry.

So the next morning I decided to go to my friends house for some advice. I decided that what he had done could have been a mistake  (as he assures me that it was nothing romantic, just a quickie over a desk at work!). So I decided to take him back, he has been really sweet, loving and thoughtful, and he also says that he is so sorry for what he has done.

The thing is that lately I can't get it out of my head, I am also questioning the fact of 'do I love him', I know I care alot for him, and we are getting on so well, except for when I think about it and get all depressed. I don't want to leave him as we have a lovely home together and a cute little dog, but I just need some advice on how to get past this pain/deppression? I can appreciate that you are busy but please could you help me!!

- Clare

PS:  He still works with the girl .

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Hit the road

Try to figure out if you really love him

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Life is not fair..

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