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How do I get him to forget my past?

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...He also always gets on my case because in my past I was very insecure with myself and it led me to do many dumb things, I ended up getting a bad reputation, but I changed.  When I met him he was a virgin, after we got together we had sex and now he always tells me that it couldn't have meant anything to me...

-- So So Confused

Female

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Dear Panel,

My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months and I have grown feelings for him that I didn't even know you could get.

I Lied Early in Our Relationship

In the beginning of our relationship I lied to him about a previous sex partner, something I now know I should not have done. Since then I have never lied to him, but it is hard for him to have trust in me. Now he thinks that since I lied to him about one thing that I could have lied to him about other stuff. Now he says "How do I know you've never cheated on me?" etc.

He Wanted Me To Be More Independent

I have done so much stuff to try to prove to him that I haven't lied and won't lie about anything else.  He broke up with me for a month because he said he needed his space, and he said that I need to be more independant, and start doing other stuff with my friends, so I did, and now that we are back together he says that whenever I go do stuff with my friends he feels like I am growing apart from him and that I don't need him anymore.  I thought that he wanted me to be more independent. 

He also always gets on my case because in my past I was very insecure with myself and it led me to do many dumb things, I ended up getting a bad reputation, but I changed.  When I met him he was a virgin, after we got together we had sex and now he always tells me that it couldn't have meant anything to me.  I want him to know that it did mean something to me, as well as that he means so much to me. 

I want him to have respect for me, and not constantly critisize my mistakes in the past. What do I do????

-- So So Confused

Female

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