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Dear Panel,

I have a huge prob... I've been friends with this boy for a while now, and he's like my brother. But I found out that he likes me and now I don't know how to act around him. My friends think that I should go out on a date with him but I know I'll feel weird , but how do I know if I like him or if there's anything going to be between us? please write back to me as soon as possible!!!!

Megan

Jody Answers:

Dear Megan,

I assume that you mean that you found out that he likes you as more than a friend. I would be curious to know how you got this information. If it is through a friend of either his or yours, I would be careful. Teenagers are notoriously bad at accurately relaying messages.

At the risk of sounding "way out of touch" I will attempt to offer you an adult point of view. Whether or not you should date this boy really depends on what you are looking for. If what you want is simply someone to hang out with, maybe date a few times, perhaps someone to go to a dance with, go for it.

But she is already feeling weird just knowing that he likes her.

Beware though, if it ends, which most relationships do eventually, the chances of the two of you reaming friends is pretty slim.

I think Jody means "male" friend, But maybe she is talking about pen pals.

If, on the other hand, you are looking for a long-term relationship, why mess with something that isn't broken.

It's not worth it to lose a friend, but if she doesn't try, she'll never know.

In the grand scheme of life, a few good mail friends are worth more than an equal number of boyfriends. A good mail friend can provide a great guy perspective for you throughout your life. You can still hangout, go out, go to dancing, etc. as friends without risking your friendship. If, when the time comes, you decide that this is the person that you want to marry, the two of you will have a long history together to build on and no hard feelings.

I am just guessing at your age but it sounds to me like you have some time before you need to select a life partner, why not play a while and save this guy as the valuable friend that he may turn out to be?

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