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I am a single mother of two who is stuck between two men.

The main person in this story is my boyfriend. He is kind, caring and affectionate. He would be the perfect guy for me but.....

Then there is my son's father. We have a long history together and I can't seem to get him out of my heart. I've loved him since I met him even though he's done me wrong so many times before. I haven't exactly been great to him either. We've both cheated and lied in the past but now that we have a child together, he seems to have changed. I still love him.

Basically, I have to decide between the two. My boyfriend and I have known each other for almost four years and have been dating for seven months. Only three of those months have been exclusive and he's been stationed overseas for all of them. I haven't been faithful to him but it's not because I don't care. I just haven't had a real boyfriend for so long that it's taken me a little while to get used to it again.

My son's father has now come back into my life telling me that he wants us to get married and be a family. He says he loves me but I don't know if I believe him. I really want to but I don't know if he can prove himself to me.

I don't want to be with him, lose my boyfriend and screw up a chance at happiness. I also don't want to tell him "No" and give up my first love. I also have to consider that my son has the chance to have both his parents living together which is also really important to me.

Who do I chose?

It doesn't matter.

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