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How do I get more of her attention?

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Dear Curious:

Heather That's way too direct! My husband waited for me silently, and it worked.

Let Her Know

Of course you should say something to her.

Mr. Sensitive I agree with Heather. If you have to demand it, you have already lost.

Anytime that you feel that you are not getting everything you want out of a relationship, you should let the other person know.

For a 3-Month Relationship, It's OK

Having said that, let's get to the rest of your question. You said that, in your 3 month old relationship, you don't believe that you and she spend enough time together, that she is still too attached to her friends. Do you see each other once a week? Less than that? At this point, that is still OK. If years go by and you still feel this way, THEN you've got a problem.

Independence Is Sexy

Mr. Sensitive I agree. And he can appear sexy by pretending to be independent.

Here's another thought: Aren't you glad to have an independent woman, one who doesn't rely on you for everything? I have always heard that self-confidence and independence are very sexy traits. I'm tempted to believe it, too.

Who wants to be completely responsible for the happiness of another human being? That is WAY too much responsibility! Trust me, it's MUCH better to be with someone who can take care of herself.

You May Need Friends, Too

Perhaps you should learn from her example. What about your own friends? How much time do you spend with them? Whatever it is, increase it.

One, if your relationship with this woman doesn't last, you're going to need your friends A LOT.

Clichés

Mr. Sensitive I could do without the clichés, but I agree with the thought. Perception is everything.

Two, have you ever heard the cliché "Familiarity breeds contempt"? No? How about "Absence makes the heart grow fonder"? What these phrases mean is that it is not a good idea to spend too much time with any one person, lest you get sick of one another.

Just remember this: Cling is good for peaches and tight sweaters, not for relationships.

Cheers!

Mo

 

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