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Is he backing off because he isn't getting any?

Mensch Answers:

Dear Anonymous,

Keep Your Distance

I admire your principle and dedication to "saving yourself" for the right person. Cultural differences aside, it sounds like your Latin American friend is really not respectful of your wishes, and I would advise you to keep your distance, emotionally as well as physically.

He Should Respect Personal Boundaries

Foxy For more compatible goals, maybe she should find another virgin..

Your desire to establish a deep connection to someone without an overt sexual aspect is not a pipe dream, it's certainly possible with the right person. Besides being compatible with you in terms of life goals, spiritual direction, and material desires, this person should, above all, have the utmost respect for you as an individual and for your personal boundaries. Your Latin American friend's actions make it seem that, as you suspect, he's only interested in one thing, and it isn't help with any academic subject.

Don't Prolong His Frustration

You sound like a very self-aware and observant young woman, with a good idea of what you should do already. I think that continuing a relationship with this man will just prolong and delay the inevitable, namely his frustration and your disillusionment, so I would wholeheartedly confirm your tendency to move on.

I wish you the best in finding your mate – I'm sure he's out there!



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