Hey, umm... I'd really appreciate any advice you can give me.
Never Had a Boyfriend
I'd like to start this off by saying that I've never had a boyfriend. (I'm 17.) I've never had a fling or whatever. I have a lot of guy friends, but I've never had a real relationship with a guy, beyond the platonic level.
Making Them Think They Have a Chance
I'm not hideous. Some guys have liked me, but as soon as I'd sense it, I'd lose all contact with the guy. I just didn't know how to act around the guy without making him think that he had a chance (which he didn't). I used to think, "Oh, I'm just acting like this towards so-and-so because I'm not attracted to him."
But then, when some of my crushes started liking me back, I didn't like it at all, and gave them the same treatment. I don't like it when guys I don't like, like me. But I don't like it either when guys I do like, like me! Ang labo! At this rate I'll be single for the rest of my life.
Maybe I only had "mild attraction" for my crushes, so when it looked like something really might happen, I realized that he wasn't boyfriend material.
So my question is, exactly what is wrong with me? And how in the world can I solve this prob?
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