Elise,

"Friend time"?

You Didn't Take Him Back

If he is as great as you say he is, then why break up with him? You broke the trust that he had in you. Even though you thought that you "took him back", you didn't. Again you broke the trust.

It could mean a gender-reversal of a "Dear John" letter, which is when a woman writes her boyfriend to tell him she's found someone new.

I am not sure what your question is with that "Dear Jane" jive talk.

He Was Afraid You'd Break Up Again

I agree. He was worried.

Anyway, he was probably feeling that you would break up with him again whenever you had the urge to want to spend more time with your friends. So instead of him taking that risk, he is avoiding you.

If he as nice as you say he is, then he will have no problem finding another girl that is going to hang on him more tightly then you.

I am sorry I am being mean, but you can't just tell your dream guy that you need a break from him.

And how can you talk about marriage, you know how much less time you would have with your friends if you got married. Listen, you are 17 years old, you are obviously not ready for anything too serious.

You Don't Take Breaks in Relationships

You seem to be confusing dating and marriage.

You don't take breaks in relationships. It is "for better or for worse". Even in relationships. If things get a little messy or you get bored or angry, you need to get through it as a team. You go out with you friends a little more. Or maybe include him with hanging out with your friends. You make it work.

Give Him Space

So listen, don't call him if he doesn't want you to. Write him a little letter of how you feel about him and how you made a mistake and give him his space. If you do that, there is a better chance of him coming back to you.

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!

– Jimmy