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Dear Panel,

Because of the fact I am not drawn to him physically, I feel less passionate for him and less desire for him sexually. Although, he is actually a very good lover and does nothing but try to please me.

I know attraction is important, but it also isn't everything, where do I draw the line?

-- Stuck

Female, age 23, Texas

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Dear Panel,

I am 24-years-old. I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year.

Before dating, we were great friends for about a year. I consider him my best friend in the whole wide world. My boyfriend is 25. He is the most supportive, motivating, nurturing person I have ever met. He inspires me to be a better person and constantly boosts my esteem.

He's The Perfect Guy

Since we have dated I am more confident about who I am and have never been more secure in a relationship. He values his family the most in his life and he is eager to marry and spend the rest of his life with me. We have common interests and enjoy each other's sense of humor more than anything.

I'm Not Physically Attracted To Him

I have never been very attracted to him physically. He makes up for it in so many other ways so I always tried to look beyond it. I got involved and stayed with him because I really thought I would just get over it. After a year and a half since it is still on my mind. I am in a bind about what to do.

He's Even A Good Lover

It's so hard because he has so much to offer, and he really is a great catch. What I don't like about his looks is something he can't change. Because of the fact I am not drawn to him physically, I feel less passionate for him and less desire for him sexually. Although, he is actually a very good lover and does nothing but try to please me.

I know attraction is important, but it also isn't everything, where do I draw the line? In 10 years will this still bother me or will I be over it? Should I dump him over this? Do I break up with a great guy if I'm not attracted physically?

-- Stuck

Female, age 23, Texas

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