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Should I be jealous of his teen porn?

Dear Panel,

My problem is that I have discovered hedownloads teen porn movies and pictures. I've discussed this with him and he says that they are just "fantasies"...

...Recently, I noticed a movie that claimed to have "illegal underage" girls in it. What should I do about this?

-- Sigh

Female, age 28, Missouri

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Dear Panel,

I am a 28-year-old who has been in the best relationship of my life for the last year and a half. My boyfriend is truly my best friend. We have a very affectionate and emotionally rewarding relationship.

We Have A Great Relationship

I find that we can do many different things together - we have a very playful and fun relationship but also communicate on a very deep level and always seem to work through things together.

In almost every aspect, this is the type of relationship that I have only dreamt about. He claims to like "sophisticated, strong and intelligent" women, and never falls short in making me feel like everyone of those things.

He Downloads Teen Porn

My problem is that I have discovered he downloads teen porn movies and pictures. I've discussed this with him and he says that they are just "fantasies". He says that, yes, he finds "young, nubile" women attractive, but that he would NEVER act on that in real life (that's why they are fantasies).

I'm No Longer "Barely Legal"

It's true that he seems very attracted to me and is extremely physically complimentary of me. This has, however, made me feel insecure for many reasons. First of all, I'm approaching 30 and am no longer "barely legal".

Secondly, I am a curvy woman, with ample breasts (which he seems to enjoy) and I've noticed that he selects movies and pictures where the "teens" have "very small breasts" and are "very petite". I think that he is going for these physical traits because of their "prepubescent" qualities. Recently, I noticed a movie that claimed to have "illegal underage" girls in it.

What should I do about this?

- Sigh

Female, age 28, Missouri

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