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Do I live with him if he's cheating on me?

Dear Panel,

At first he said he is just going to see the kid, then I found out he is having sex with the girl.

Now, he says we can just get a two bedroom apartment. There is no way in hell I can go back with my parents. I have no one here but him. He was my life and I'm just totally shocked and confused. Can you give me some feedback?

-- Angela

Female, age 20, USA

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Dear Panel,

I am a loving person who would do anything for my boyfriend.

A year ago, my parents moved about 6 hours away. I stayed behind to be with my boyfriend, Nick. They moved back to the very small town that I grew up in. I don't ever want to go back there.

I Thought He Was Perfect

Nick is, or was, what I thought was the perfect guy. All my friends tried to make their boyfriends like him. He is sweet, kind and very considerate.

Nick and I have been in what I thought was a perfect relationship for about 2 years. I had total trust in him.

He Went Out While I Was Asleep

Last night, I woke up at about 5am and he wasn't asleep next to me. I called for him and there was no answer. I went downstairs and he wasn't anywhere.

I was totally confused. I decided to just get back into bed and then when I heard him come in, I acted like I didn't know he was gone, to see if he would lie to me or not. About 45 minutes later I heard the door open. I waited about 3 minutes and I went to the restroom. I called his name and he said, "Yeah I'm down here. I'm playing video games because I couldn't sleep." He lied!

So I said "OK" and went upstairs. About 30 seconds later I sat on the stairs and said, "Why are you lying to me?". He immediately came up to me and I could smell that he had put on cologne.

He Was Cheating On Me (And He Had A Kid)

So I found out that he has been cheating on me for the past year and the other girl (Tori) has his kid. She is a freakin' whore who does speed and is complete and total white trash. I didn't even know he had a kid. I'm so hurt. He said he loves me but I don't believe it.

At first he said he is just going to see the kid, then I found out he is having sex with Tori.

I Don't Know Where To Go

Now, he says we can just get a two bedroom apartment. There is no way in hell I can go back with my parents. I have no one here but him. He was my life and I'm just totally shocked and confused. Can you give me some feedback?

-- Angela

Female, age 20, USA

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