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Confront her about my jealousy?

Dear Panel,

I guess I am a jealous man. I have diagnosed myself as such. Jealousy happens to the best of us. I get jealous when I see my girlfriend flirting, or dancing too close with guys at the bar.

I understand the right thing to do is to talk with her regardless but I just want a second opinion.

-- Jealous for a Reason

Male, age 25, Canada

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Dear Panel,

I am a 25-year-old male. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months. We have known each other for 6 years now and we both know that we will marry. Marriage is discussed, having children is discussed etc. I have very little trouble telling her what is on my mind, until recently.

My girlfriend is a beautiful 22-year-old. She is in school. We do not go to the bars often and when we do we usually do not drink too much. My girlfriend knows she does not need much alcohol to get drunk.

I'm A Jealous Guy

I have been in 2 serious relationships and my last one caused me to be a jealous man. I love women and treat every one of my girlfriends like queens. I guess I am a jealous man. I have diagnosed myself as such. Jealousy happens to the best of us. I get jealous when I see my girlfriend flirting, or dancing too close with guys at the bar.

Alcohol Makes Me Angry

I have problems accepting people's behaviour when they are drunk. Girls become frisky and guys follow up. I trust my girlfriend except I do not trust alcohol and what it does to people.

My girlfriend and I were having a good night. Drinking a little bit at her friend's house with her classmates. Then she and I went to a birthday party for an hour. We were supposed to meet up with her classmates later at a bar.

We met up with her friends at the bar. This guy in her class knows that we are going out but I think he likes my girlfriend. Everybody on the dance floor is having a good time dancing. I have had barely 2 drinks. I am supposed to drive home. My girlfriend is dancing with me and her friends. Everything is going well.

She Was Dancing Sexually

I go to the washroom and when I come back my girlfriend is dancing close with this guy. I nonchalantly take her back to me and we dance. When I saw them dancing it was very sexual and feel that she should only dance this way with me. We had talked about this before one time when I came and got her from the bar. I don't want to pester her about this and make her think that I a jealous freak.

I understand the right thing to do is to talk with her regardless but I just want a second opinion. Alcohol makes me angry.

-- Jealous for a Reason

Male, age 25, Canada

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