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No other girl I've met has made me feel as strongly as I feel for Courtney. But obviously the distance is a problem, as well as the fact that I don't know if she is still undecided about how she feels about me. Or if she may just see me as a friend.

Do I tell her how I feel when I see her in August or continue to hold it inside and move on?

-- Kurdt

Male, age 20, Wisconsin

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Dear Panel,

I am a 20-year-old college student who grew up in Nebraska but is now attending college and living in Wisconsin.

Courtney is 19 and my best friend from back home. After graduating high school she moved to Virginia, but is now moving back to Nebraska.

We Met In High School

I met Courtney when I was a senior in high school and she was a junior. She was dating a classmate of mine at the time and I was dating a different girl. Our friendship began prom night when my girlfriend broke my heart and it was Courtney who went out of her way to make me feel better.

I Moved For College

After I left for college we kept in contact by e-mail, instant messaging, and phone calls here and there. I spent time with her when I went home for Christmas and again when I went home for her graduation.

She moved to Virginia but we still kept in contact. She's my best friend and I'm hers. We can talk to each other about anything and we have both tried to help the other through any tough times.

I Told Her How I Feel

The catch of it all is that I fell for her not long after moving to Wisconsin. I didn't tell her how I felt when I saw her in December, but I did 2 months later.

She said she wasn't sure how she felt about me. She loved me as her best friend but wasn't sure if she felt more about me or not. She felt we should continue being what we are to each other and see where God leads us.

I haven't brought up my feelings since although I think about her everyday. Somedays I think I love her, other days I tell myself I don't know what love is. I guess what I'm trying to say is that this girl is everything I want and the one that I adore.

No other girl I've met has made me feel as strongly as I feel for Courtney. But obviously the distance is a problem, as well as the fact that I don't know if she is still undecided about how she feels about me. Or if she may just see me as a friend.

Do I tell her how I feel when I see her in August or continue to hold it inside and move on?

-- Kurdt

Male, age 20, Wisconsin

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