HomeMainMeet the PanelAll QuestionsYour HostAsk the Panel

Question

Dear Panel,

I would never want to put our marriage in jeopardy however, I don't feel like I should abandon a friendship that began some 30 years ago just because my husband feels uncomfortable. Please help.

-- Torn Between Friends and Lovers

Female, age 35, USA

 

[read the entire question below]

Dear Panel,

My husband and I have a wonderful, open relationship. We have been married for 5 years but dated all through high school.

He's Become Jealous

Recently, he has become very jealous of a guy friend ( I grew up with him) that I occasionally keep in touch with. I understand somewhat his feelings and I have agreed to keep the contact very minimal as he feels threatened by this relationship.

My friend called my cell phone to let me know a mutual friend was in trouble. My husband went balistic. I agreed that he should not call my cell phone or home phone as I would be upset if the tables were reversed. But now he acts like he doesn't trust me anymore.

He's Openly Hostile

Every time I go out to shop, shuttle children, scrapbook classes, etc., he is openly annoyed and gives me the cold shoulder.

I would never want to put our marriage in jeopardy however, I don't feel like I should abandon a friendship that began some 30 years ago just because my husband feels uncomfortable. Please help.

-- Torn Between Friends and Lovers

Female, age 35, USA

Bodacious, Charlie, Patra, and Spanky answer this question.

 

 

Love & Learn: Relationship advice from a panel of non-experts.

 

Site Design by:
Bleeding Edge Design