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| Dear Panel, Is it OK to engage myself to a relationship with a man who has already a 3-year-old son and married but separated though not yet legally separated? – Sam Female, age 24, Taiwan |
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Wait until he gets divorced, and figure out if you are comfortable being a secondary Mom to a child that isn't yours. |
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| Dear Panel, I met this guy and after some weeks of getting along well, he tells me he loves me. At first I didn't believe it, but he waits for me to be online. He responds to my letters in a matter of seconds, he writes me the longest letters. I don't trust him fully but I was touched by the gesture. My parents won't allow me to have a boyfriend and even suitors so I told him that. He said he's going to wait (he's 25 and I'm 15!) When I told him that we couldn't be together, he said he's so hurt. He said it was the first time that he got real with a girl and now he was being punished. He's feeling so sorry for himself. What should I do? – Mermaid Female, age 15, Philippines |
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Feel sorry for him too. And then date other 15-year-olds. |
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Let him feel sorry for himself and be glad that you have parents who are interested in protecting you and helping you avoid big nasty horrible disasters at a young age. They're bad enough when you're older. |
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Tell him he is an internet stalker and a cradle robber! |
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He's just playing you! He's far older than you and that means he's got a lot of experience playing with young girls' feelings. |
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Tell him to get a life. |
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| Dear Panel, I like this guy who is 8 years older then me. We say "hi" to each other and play head games but we haven't really had a conversation. Is this just a fantasy? – Anonymous Female, age 16, Canada |
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It should be. |
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| Dear Panel, I am having trouble getting girls. I think it's because I all ready went out with a very popular girl, and just a few months ago I dumped her so now none of the girls who I like at my high school will go on dates with me because they are all friends with her. I have a fairly good body, pretty funny and easy going and I am also in BIO tech. I play varsity soccer and J.V. lacrosse and J.V. basketball (so I am pretty athletic). I think also its because I am a jock and I don't really get any girls who are not in the sports or school spirit click. Please give me some feedback to try and clue me in on how to get girls. I was also thinking that maybe I should try girls from other schools too. Thanks. – TonyMale, age 16, Seattle |
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Stop looking at yourself so much and start looking
further afield. Aiming for the friends of your ex won't get you far! |
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| Dear Panel, How can I make a long distance relationship work? He's in the Navy, stationed in Italy right now and I'm in Florida. – FunNc17 Female, age 28, Florida |
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A lot depends on the history of your relationship and how strong it is. With the Internet, you should be able to keep in touch through e-mail and instant messenger. Try sending photos regularly and perhaps even cassette tapes so that you can hear each other's voice whenever you want. |
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| Dear Panel, I have been dating this guy for like 3 months and his best friend hit on me. Should I tell him? – Veve Female, age 20, USA |
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How did you respond to the best friend? |
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Only if it makes you uncomfortable to be around him, or if it happens again (sometimes guys can't take a hint). You did tell the guy to go away, right? |
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Would you want to know if YOUR BEST FRIEND hit on your date? OF COURSE you should tell him. |
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| Dear Panel, I really like a man I work with and I'm unsure whether he likes me or not. I don't know if he is married or has children and don't know how to ask without embarrassing myself and letting him know I like him. – J Female, age 29, Northern Ireland |
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Just ask, he'll be flattered either way. |
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| Dear Panel, I told my boyfriend that I love him and he said "I am falling in love with you too". – Nuts Female, age 32, USA |
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Uh okay, and your question is.....? |
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| Dear Panel, My roommate is trying to sabotage my new relationship. I met my boyfriend through mutual friends of hers and his. She has had a crush on him for a while. She seems to want the attention of every man all the time. She was my best friend until recently. I am not the game playing type, but she is very good at it. I have witnessed the games she plays with others. Now she is playing them with me. She has asked him to go to the lake for a day with her and some friends. He said yes. (Don't get me wrong-she is not very attractive and he has told me he is not interested and I believe him) I am still jealous. I don't want to be the girl who tells him not to go, but I feel disrespected. I wouldn't accept plans with one of his friends without him there. I know he would not go if I asked him to. I don't want to be controlling girlfriend though. They are not friends, I don't understand this. I know she likes him. He knows it too. Why did he say yes? I don't know what to do. I am hurt and confused. – Mary Female, age 28, USA |
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Maybe he's going because he likes the lake? Can't he invite you along? I say, talk to him, not us, and look for a new living situation. |
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He shouldn't be hanging out with her, tell him how you feel! |
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| Dear Panel, I met a girl who is very kindly and responsible. I would learn a lot with her. But I have been with my girl about 1 year. She is great but I'm not interested in her right now! – Luis Male, age 26, Mexico City |
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Sounds like time for a change. |
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Do your current girl friend a favor, break up with her and hope the new one is everything you want. |
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| Dear Panel, Last summer I went on holiday and while I was away I cheated on my boyfriend. At the time I had only been going out with him for three months and didn't realise how much I cared for him and love him. A year on I still feel really guilty. I can't tell him or he would dump me. – Sandy Female, age 18, England |
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If it bothers you this bad, don't you think it's time to fess up? |
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Punish your boyfriend and yourself as much as you possibly can for your infidelity. Or get over it. |
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| Dear Panel, This guy who is my best friend told me he liked me a couple days ago. I don't know how to react to it because my friend is going out with him right now and I don't know how to tell her. How should I react to that one? – Ashley Female, age 14, USA |
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Stay out of a relationship with him, beyond what you've got. Sit back and watch what develops NATURALLY between him and your friend. Time will tell... you shouldn't. |
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| Dear Panel, I am 14-years-old and I have 20 boyfriends. How should I dump them? All at once? In different ways so I am not obvious? – Playerchic Female, age 14, California |
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What did you do to get 20 boyfriends? |
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You could just call it a "clearance sale". I think you're beyond worrying about "obvious". |
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Haha, you're joking right? |
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HAHAHA...oh, I'm sorry, you were serious? |
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Sorry, that's the last question. Read the 14 Snappy Answers again
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