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Looking in Phoenix asks:

I just met a really nice guy who just broke up with his girlfriend of 2+ years a little over a month ago.  I am ready for a longer term relationship. We didn't intend to start dating but we both really like each other.  I am concerned that I will become the rebound person.  We have discussed these concerns and he is concerned about the same thing, but says he really wants to keep seeing me anyway. yellbut.gif Should I be concerned or does it just work out sometimes even after a break up from a long term relationship? 

Mare Answers:

My guess is that this guy hasn't done a lot

But everyone has baggage

singletin2.gifof grieving for his old relationship and is probably carrying a full set of baggage -- enough for a round-the-world trip.  But enough about him.

Take it Slow

As Frank Sinatra once sang, "Nice and easy does it.

I agree. Here is a story about a similar situation that happened to me.

"readerTF.gif The best thing to do with this -- and all -- relationships is take it slow at the beginning.  I know, I know.  It's REALLY hard to do.  But if you take it slowly, you'll find out soon enough whether or not he wants to be in a long term relationship.

More importantly, you should figure out if YOU want to be in a long term relationship with this guy.  Don't sit back and wait for someone else to pick you.  You decide what you want.  Sometimes you'll get it.  Sometimes you won't.  But either way, you will be in charge of your own life.

Write back and let us know what you decided to do with your life.


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