I am a 29-year-old advertising exec in Chicago. I am a survivor of many relationships and I am currently single and looking for Mr. Right.
I am a college graduate. I originally moved to Chicago to become a chef and somehow ended up in advertising. I am one of the few that can honestly say I love my job. I have a great time at what I do.
I am the oldest of 5 kids. My parents have been married for 31 years and are still disgustingly in love. I used to think it was pretty gross but now I think its fabulous and thats what I want.
My Relationship Philosophy
Honesty is the best policy. If you can not trust the person you are with you dont belong there in the first place. I also feel that everyone deserves a second chance to a point.
There are some things I feel are deal breakers in a relationship. Those include: Violence, cheating, lying, verbal abuse and not respecting ones boundaries.
I also feel its more important to be wanted rather than NEEDED. I feel that you are better off alone than to be in a relationship for all the wrong reasons.
However, be warned
These philosophies took a long time to come. I had plenty of nights crying myself to sleep, eating Ben and Jerrys by the gross and annoying each and every one of my friends for advice on my current situation.
There are some things that remain true. Your family is your most important ally, Never alienate yourself from your friends when youre in a relationship. You may need them one day. And never compromise your beliefs or morals just to keep someone in your life. If someone you are with expects you to go against your beliefs, chances are you shouldnt be with them in the first place.
The Worst Break Up I Ever Had
I was dating this guy for 6 months or so. I thought things were going really well. One night he was over and we were sleeping and all of a sudden he gets up yelling that I snore too loud. Well, needless to say a few weeks later, he informs me that the reason he was breaking up with me was the fact I snored too loud.
It wasnt so much the worst but the LAMEST excuse .
My Point Of View
Matters of the heart are not an exact science. All we can do is treat others the way we want to be treated and be honest and hopefully, everyone will live happily ever after. Unfortunately, someone coined the phrase all is fair in love and war for a reason.
I hope you find my advice helpful. If you at least walk away feeling that someone understands what you are going through or can at least laugh a little between the tears
I have done my job. Thanks for putting your trust in me.