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Does it make you feel any better if I tell you you're not alone? I can't tell you how many guys I've broken up with for being "too nice". Its true, myself included, chicks
(and I say it like that because we don't always deserve the respect we get) like men. MEN. Manly men.
We Need a Challenge
Its nice to have a friend, companion and all that lovey dovey stuff, but we need someone that challenges us.
Okay, I'll speak for myself: I want my man to disagree with me enough that I know he has his own opinion, but not so much that we have nothing to agree on. I want my man to make decisions for "us", even if I may initially get mad at the decision he has made. I want my man to challenge me intellectually so that I know his mind goes beyond Sportscenter and he knows mine hasn't crossed over to Mrs. Cleaver's.
Don't fret. Just check yourself. Do you have more female than male friends? This is a sure sign that you are too nice. And that's not a bad thing. But as you've learned, being too nice can challenge your ability to have a relationship last.
Men need to be assertive
This is not to tell you to be a jerk and the girls will come, but assert yourself and be proud to be a man. Don't be a doormat and don't always let us have our way. We like hard to get (sometimes). Don't be a macho jerk, but don't be a wuss, either. Be that elusive mystery man that every woman wants to know, not the "friend" that we all have but would never date.