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My boyfriend and I have a wonderful relationship, we are celebrating our 1 year anniversary in two days, and we both know that we love each other.

 Anyway, in the past 3 or 4 months, I've found that it's becoming harder and harder to get off the phone or say goodnight after going out.  I have this subconscious fear that he's going to dump me (he's told me 1000 times that he loves me no matter what and that he is not going to dump me; he gets irritated with my constant reply of "I'm just afraid of losing you to someone else," to his question of "what's wrong?"  He can always tell when I'm upset) Or that he's going to leave and something terrible is going to happen I'm never going to see him again.

 We used to spend loads of time together when we first started going out, which was just before our senior year in high school.  We've both recently graduated, he just turned 19 and I'm almost 18, and he's recently gotten a job.  I'd just like some advice on how to cope with my fear and the depression of not being able to see him as much as I used to.  It's my fault and it's hurting our relationship and causing us both a lot of mental and emotional anguish.  Please


Mare Answers:

You've really answered your own question?

Yes, she has the answer but she still doesn't know what to do.

readerT.gifyou do need to stop unloading your insecurities on your boyfriend and give him some space.  You're likely to drive him away if you keep this up.

Two things to consider:

  • First, if he did leave you, you would survive.  It feels like you wouldn't but you would

    At her young age, change is good

    .aliciaLtin.gif  Honestly.  (You might even benefit from time on your own, but I know you're not ready to hear that.) 
  • Second, you may want to see a counselor about your insecurity issues.  I can tell that you are a great person ? after all you're willing to take the risk of loving someone?

    Take the advice and get over it. I'm talking from experience.

    aliciaLtin.gifand you shouldn't be spending your time worrying about someone leaving you. 

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