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Dear Panel,

I've been going out with my boyfriend for over 5 years, and in June last year we bought a house together. The thing is in February of this year, he went out with work on a 'works do' and ended up sleeping with one of the girls from work,  I thought that the relationship was going fine but obviously not.  [...]

I don't want to leave him as we have a lovely home together and a cute little dog, but I just need some advice on how to get past this pain/deppression? I can appreciate that you are busy but please could you help me!!


Hope Answers:

First of all, because he has been unfaithful to you,

I don't get it, if it meant nothing to him, why he would jeopardize the relationship by telling her?

readerTF.gifI say "hit the road, Jack." What good will a "lovely" home and cute dog be to you if you are miserable and living with an unfaithful man? (who by the way, doesn't even have the decency to marry you after five years of dating, but expects you to commit to living with him?!?

Buying a house together is a big commitment.

aliciaLtin.gifHe is basically playing marriage without having to commit to it...)  This will plague your relationship, and the fact that you are questioning your feelings for him is only more proof that He must not be the man you thought he was.

Second, why would he have a reason to be faithful to you if cheating is so easy? If a few kind words and deeds is all it takes to win your allegiance again, then what's to deter him from doing it again?

So... what would deter him? A good punishment?

singletin2.gifDo not be fooled by loving words and a remorseful attitude -- talk is cheap!! And if sex is so casual for him that he would jeopardize a serious five year relationship for a "quickie over a desk at work," how could you ever trust him? You deserve better!  In fact, everyone deserves better than that!

My advice to you is DON'T SETTLE FOR SECOND BEST. Realize that you were created by a loving God who has a wonderful plan for your life. If you give your life to God, He will take care of you and provide for you. Allow Him to be your comfort and strength as you step out and stand up for yourself!

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