Dear Hitting the Road,
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I agree on that.
It's so hard, isn't it? I don't think there is anything harder for a human than losing someone you love.
And for some reason, it isn't any easier when you are the one who is ending the relationship.
Fear of Heartache
The most important thing is that you should not stay in the relationship solely because you fear the heartache of leaving. I can't emphasize this enough. Many times a miserable and abused person stays in a terrible relationship because of this fear.
You may want to consult a book called "How to Break an Addiction to a Person" by Halpern. It talks about why it hurts so much and gives you tips on deciding whether or not you should end a relationship. (By the way, I don't get any kick-backs for mentioning this book. It helped me a couple of times in my life, so I mention it here.)
If You're Being Abused
You don't talk about the nature of your relationship, but if you (or any of our readers) are in an abusive relationship and can't seem to get out, call your local police department and ask for the domestic violence folks. They should be able to refer you to a support group or a women's shelter that can help.