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Should I go for passion or comfort?

Dear Panel,

I'm a 23 old woman and I've been with my boyfriend for more than five years. We have lived together couple of years but we aren't engaged. I like him a lot and, sure, I love him too.

There isn't much of a passion between us anymore but living together is nice and we're happy.

Now I have found myself thinking about another guy. He's at my age (my boyfriend is 5 years older than me) and he's really nice. We used to work in the same place and I noticed then that he had warm feelings towards me. I haven't seen him for 6 months, only talked to him on the phone a couple of times. He always tells me how he misses me, really Misses me.

I would like to see if this other guy is the One for me, but I don't know how! I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, he is my best friend. On the other hand, I don't want to wonder all the time what it could be with the other guy. What should I do? Help me, please.

– Torn

Work on your current relationship


You can't have your cake ...  and eat it too


Don't give up a best friend


First decide what you want in a relationship

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Which guy has the best long term potential?

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