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Dear Panel,

My boyfriend of 10 months broke up with me a week ago. I was the one who originally brought up the idea to separate for awhile.  A few days later, to my surprise he agreed with me. 
The reason we thought we should be away from each other was because of our constant arguing over (usually) very trivial stuff.  We both love each other very much and were friends for 3 years before we started going out. The problem is we both have pretty bad tempers.  I know he would never hit me, but it hurts to argue so much with someone you love.  He's tried leaving for 20 minutes or so during an argument, so we both have time to cool down, but when he returns we just start back up again. 
I really don't know what to do. We get along so well when we aren't arguing. I want to get back with him but I don't want our relationship to be like it was before. We have problems listening to each other sometimes.  We didn't seem to run into these problems until we'd been going out 6 months. Part of our pro!blem may be that we usually see each other every day.yelbtblk.gif

I would appreciate any help or advice you have for me.  My bf and I are both 17

Carrie Answers:

Alyssa-

it sounds to me that this is just a case of claustraphobia. Maybe it would help if you spent some time away from each other.

If they are claustrophobic now.... what would happen if they got married?

aliciaLtin.gifThen you'll start missing each other and won't want to spend the time you have together fighting. Have you tried to sit down with him and discuss the relationship? The key to a good relationship is trust and communication, without it there's nothing. Good Luck!
 

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