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How do I get over that I'm not fiancée's first?

Hope Answers:

Dear Reader,

Stop Having Sex

First of all, you both need to come to an agreement not to have sex anymore until you get married.

Reader Distraught

That kind of advice is when readers start thinkng "damn this site sucks".

(Premarital sex is what caused your problem in the first place.)

Perhaps this is a way to bring the two of you back to purity in your relationship so that you can start off right in your marriage.


Or at least it will let your desire surpass your jealousy.

That will make it that much sweeter when you do give yourselves to each other on your wedding night.

What the Bible Says

Reader Believer

You should warn users that there is a major reference to God and the bible.

In the Bible it says that:

"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. Old things have passed away, behold all things have become new." (2 Corinthians 5:17)


No matter what faith you are, making love is a beautiful thing.

When you give your life to Christ and ask for forgiveness for your sins, God wipes away all of your past mistakes and shortcomings – everything – as though it had never happened.

God Can Make You a Virgin Again

This is the only way for either of you to truly regain your virginity in a sense and to start off your marriage "fresh." The past is gone with all of your mistakes and sins, and all things will become new. Wouldn't you love to start all things new on your wedding night having saved yourself for each other from today until the day you get married?

Ask for God's Forgiveness


Not everybody wants Christian advice.

Now, after both of you receive God's forgiveness, you also need to forgive each other for things you have done in your past. You are not perfect. (None of us are). If you want your future wife to forgive you for whatever mistakes you have made in the past, you need to be willing to forgive her and love her with an unconditional love.

Besides, the more important thing is that you truly pledge your faithfulness to each other from this day forward. You can't change the past, but you have control over your actions in the future.



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