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How important is Valentine's Day?


Quasi- Holiday

Cynth This answer was written February 2000.

Valentine's Day is just around the corner, and all you romantics out there are already planning your big nights. For those of us that don't much care for the quasi-holiday, we can at least be happy that this oh-so-special occasion falls on a Monday night , so at least we have waking up early for work on Tuesday as an excuse to couch (as a verb).


I have never particularly cared about VD – (kinda funny Valentine's shares the same initials as something else not-so-pleasant.) I don't really know why, either, since I have always had some sort of magical night planned.

Charlie I've got you beat.

If you followed my relationship with Jake at all (see my bio) you'd remember we had sex for the first time on Valentine's 3 years ago.

Feeling Left Out

I guess the thing for a lot of people is this: as much as we really believe we don't care about Valentine's, when the day passes and we didn't get one single rose, a simple card, a handwritten letter, we feel left out of the club. Fortunately, this can be alleviated by the fact that it doesn't have to be from a love interest.

Reader I know what you mean.

One year my dad bought my sister and me a tiny teddy bear with a personalized locket and I felt so special. I don't think I ever outgrew that feeling I got, meaning whether I was 8 or 23, it would mean as much.

The part of Valentine's that is the worst is that, especially for women, it is a contest. Mr. Hallmark invented a holiday and we bought into it. Every VD past, I can think of some way people are made to feel lonely and left out.

In high school I remember you could order carnation corsages for friends or boyfriends/girlfriends. I was stoked getting some, but people with none looked so sad. Now I work in an office with 17 women ... some will get long stem roses delivered, some will get cookies, some will get nothing.

Alicia They're Lying

And everybody can say they couldn't care less, but my suspicion is they are all lying.

Okay, enough Alicia secrets for you. Final thoughts: be sincere and don't think of a plan as a means to an end but an end in itself. The whole point is to let them (whether husband/ wife /girlfriend/ boyfriend/ friend/ lover) know that somebody cares about them.



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