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Back to what triggered this response.

Jody said:

If Patrick is using the porn for masturbation, which he probably is, he is demonstrating that he sees women as a tool to be used for self-satisfaction. Sex to him is something he GETS not a relationship he HAS.

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Anonymous Camera Operator asks:

Dear Panel:


I want to make whoopie but (my) wife (is) not in mood...what do I Do?

Dear Anonymous Camera Operator.

 Respect your wife's feelings and be willing to compromise. Perhaps she is willing to "satisfy" you without the full "blown" conquest issue.

Sometimes you can ask her if she would like a back rub without the pressure to perform coitally, or if she would be willing to caress you where you would derive the most satisfaction without the big "F" on the horizon.

Communication is also the best way to resolve this kind of dilemna. Maybe she is harboring some kind of resentment that needs to be settled before she can regain that loving feeling.

Maybe she needs to feel like she is involved in the lovemaking and not just an "object" of your affection.

You need to look at the way you approach the subject. Are

This is similar to the issue women have when they are dating. See my answer to PIE

hopeTinL.gif you a Bull looking for anything that resembles a cow, or are you genuinely affectionate toward, and do you genuinely care about, and love your wife so that both of you derive pleasure from your intimacy.

Your sexual interest needs to be accompanied by your full attention to your relationship, and resolving those issues that get in the way of intimacy.

From Psychobabylon Babe.


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