Dear Lady in Waiting:
2 Years is 2 Long
You are going to be called Lady in Waiting Too Long if you don't wake up soon and smell the decaf. Two years is a long time for your man not to know how he feels about his partner.
I have listened to countless friends lately who are struggling with the same dilemma
. The person that they have been spending time with, and energy on, cannot commit or is not willing to utter the L-word. This is a serious red flag, especially after a 24-month period.
I am sure you care a great deal about this person or you would not have been hovering in this relationship for a two-year period.
As you know, it is not a good idea to get too serious about someone before the one-year mark after leaving a marriage or long-term love affair. In most cases, they are still sorting out their feelings and their intentions and their needs can become murky and a bit messy to their new partner, and to themselves.
This fella does not seem to be brewing up a commitment concoction. It has been two years and you've invested a lot of time and heart into this affair. I would move on if I were you.
Take This Opportunity
Of course, these things are always easier said than done. But with his internship in full swing, I would take this opportunity to place your attention and concern elsewhere. Put your antennas up and try to locate someone who is ready to partake in a relationship with the same commitment and fortitude that you seem to desire and display.