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He Hasn't Done Anything Wrong

He may not have done anything wrong, but he hasn't done anything right either. He is not worth her energy.

One the one hand, there is no reason to dump your boyfriend on the grounds of committing a love crime, since he hasn't done anything wrong.

For more on the ups and downs of a rebound relationship see, "Can a rebound relationship work?"

However, he may be dealing with lots of issues surrounding his marriage and not ready to enter into another serious relationship.

So, it's up to you.

If you are like me and you think that immediate gratification takes too long, this could be an excruciating three years. In fact, it would be an excruciating two months, because you'd want to get out by then.

If you're like some of my friends, you can relax, kick back and wait to see what happens.

In either case, since neither of you has made a commitment to the relationship, why not meet other people? It will give you both a chance to have some other experiences and find out what you want.

She has already given him 2 years, that's too long. if he still doesn't know how he feels, he isn't going to.

Also, you may want to set a time limit for making a commitment - let's say, one year.


If she does want to give him a time limit, she should read my rules for ultimatums.

When the year is up, be ready to end the relationship if it hasn't moved to where you want.


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