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Should I approach her if I am not sure it will work?

Saibhin Answers:

Dear Tony,

Okay, it took me a while to respond to this. I kept saying, "Is this guy for real?" But enough about me – Tony, I'm going to be frank with you; if anything else you deserve a straightforward response to your question.

Your Ideas Are Antiquated

First off, you are 21, so relax, please. You seem to have very antiquated ideas on women and on dating. Ground yourself in reality.

Prince and princess kind of stuff belongs in fairy tales, not in someone's ideals. Look at real life royalty and you'll understand that fairy tales only exist in books and Walt Disney theme parks.

Seek an Alternative Lifestyle

I agree. That's why he's never had a girlfriend.

If you don't believe a guy should talk to a girl unless he is 100% sure that there will not be any emotion going on, then you may want to seek an alternative lifestyle, because that ain't gonna happen sweetheart.

We are creatures of emotion, as well as logic, common sense and a myriad of other details you're going to keep missing out on if you continue on in your two dimensional world.

Her Life Won't Revolve Around You

This has nothing to do with school. He is just afraid of rejection.

On school: College is hard, relationships are hard. But this is your intro to life. If you do not learn to balance these things now, you will have a hard time trying to balance them in the workforce.

Understand that Britney/Jennifer is also in college, that she also has classes, so she will have empathy on these issues. Do not for once believe her life would revolve around you if you two were to hook up, that's a surefire way to disaster in a relationship.

Attraction Isn't Love

I agree. He's being superficial now.

I would suggest you speak with Britney/Jennifer, because you are never going to know her unless you talk to her. Attraction isn't love, it's a step in the right direction, but you can never judge a book by its cover.

Relax yourself! You're being way too hard on this guy.

And first and foremost, again, relax. You have a crush; it's no big deal. You have a choice, talk to her and see if the feeling is mutual, or don't and never know.

– Saibhin


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