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Will he be jealous of a dying man?


Dear Elizabeth,

Yes, your marriage will be hurt by this. While husbands would be understanding of a friend you met at the gym or in a store or at work, who was dying, the fact that you met online sets off alarm bells.

I'm A Husband, I Would Be Jealous

As a husband and father, I can say that I'd be very jealous if my wife told me that she met this guy online who now loves her and is dying.

While I would be sympathetic about the fact that the guy was dying, I would not be very sympathetic to my wife's feelings. Where was she (you) going with this? What were you doing basically leading a guy on online?

I think pretty serious questions about your marriage and the future of your relationship with your husband are raised by this.

Contrary to the beliefs of some, I don't think that love online is harmless. I really think that people meet, fall in love, ruin
marriages, develop new relationships, find new marriages, all online. I know two couples where this happened personally.

So, you've already done some damage here raising the hopes and expectations of a dying you also want to ruin your marriage?

Dying Isn't The Point


You're right Charlie. This IS an extramarital affair.

The fact that he's dying is not the point. The fact that you have basically betrayed your spouse is the real issue.

Charlie Forget The Dying Guy

So, what do you want to do about it. In my opinion you have three options:


    She doesn't have to forget him. But she shouldn't be his sole support.

  • Forget the dying guy, don't tell your husband, and move on. (My recommendation)

  • Tell your husband, deal with the consequences, and maybe try to go be with the dying guy as he dies. (Why would you want to do this?)

  • Keep up the illicit relationship without telling your least the dying guy gets the comfort of knowing your out there and your family stays intact.

Good luck, (stick with the living)

- Charlie



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