Snappy Answers Jan 30, '01

January 30, 2001: Here are short answers to 12 of the questions that we found in our mail box.

For more serious answers, please click on any of the other questions on the main page.

Dear Panel,

My fiancé just left me after a year and a half and I am nine months pregnant.

How do I get him back?

Female, age 18, USA

Mr. Survivor

You could try a paternity suit, or maybe a gun, but why bother with the bum?

Mare

Don't. Who wants a guy who would leave you now?

Lefty

I would think that making him pay child support would be much better than actually getting him back.

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Dear Panel,

Do you think that a soulmate is someone who has the same interests as yours?

Let's just say I am a go-getter and the other person is just satisfied with getting by.

Do you think these two people are soulmates?

- SS

Lefty
Depends. If your goal as a go-getter is to get someone who's laid back, he IS your soulmate.

Mel

SOULMATES have nothing to do with what you have in common, but how you feel about each other.

 

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Dear Panel,

My boyfriend is either at work or at school till 6 o'clock everyday and we don't get to see each other that often. I think that he should try to spend the time he has free with me but he often breaks plans with me to go out and party with his friends.

I don't want him to dump his friends, but how should I let him know that our relationship is suffering and that we need some more time together?

- Confused 0465

Female, age 15, USA

Hmmm... that's a unique and tricky situation... NOT.

How about you say: "I don't want you to dump your friends but our relationship is suffering and I think that we need some more time together"?

 

Alicia
 

Tell him that your relationship is suffering and you need to spend more time together.

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Dear Panel,

I'm not sure if the guy I like likes me or if he's just being friendly.

What are something guys do to show they're interested?

- Confused 0466

Female, age 17, USA

Lefty

When guys like you, they're REALLY friendly. Think humping dogs.

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Dear Panel,

The relationship that I am currently in has had its ups and downs, but right now I'm not sure if we will be able to overcome this one.

Today my boyfriend told me he has a huge crush on my sister; this really upset me when he told me this because most of the guys that I have had relationships with have eventually hurt me in one way or another (not just dating relationships) and I never for a minute thought that he would be one of them. I don't even know if it's worth even talking to him further about it.

He told me that he really doesn't want this to hurt our relationship, but he understands if I want to break it off with him.

What I really need is an opinion on if you think it's worth going through with the relationship and some advice on how to deal with this.

- Hailey

Female, age 19, Canada

Linda

This guy wants to break up with you.

He just wants you to do the dirty work.

Oblige him.

 

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Dear Panel,

How do you know if a woman likes you?

I have been out of the dating game for awhile.

- Mike

Male, age 32, North Carolina

Linda

We use the same signals we did when you were in the dating game, with the addition of e-mail.

 

Diva

Same as the old days: eye batting, subtle touching, flattery, extra smiles, little hints, etc...

Just keep your eyes open; if you do that you'll know when someone is interested!

 

Jayne

How do I know if a woman likes me? I don't know, I've never noticed.

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Dear Panel,

5 months ago my boyfriend broke up with me. Or rather let me hear the bad news from some mutual friends. I wasn't too upset at the time but later on it really start to hurt.

My ex tried to be friends with me but I just ignored him. A few months later he sent a note saying that he wanted to be friends but I should go out with this other guy. He also sent a tape of songs. Some were pretty much platonic but others were more romantic like "I'll never let you go" and " I need you".

Months have passed and I still haven't responded because I can't decide whether I want to get back together or never speak to him again.

Please help me!

- Confused 0598

Female

Berly

Confused? No wonder.

If you could read even more into nothing, you might find the answer.

He never asked you to get back together. Find a new guy to overanalyze.

 

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Dear Panel,

How many times should I call a guy I like, when he isn't calling back?

Female

Linda

Twice, in case you accidentally left the message at a wrong number the first time .

 

Lefty

One time less than you've already called.

Jody

If you know he isn't calling back, stop.

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Dear Panel,

How can you tell if it's a serious relationship?

- Ashley

Female, age 15, USA

Lefty

If you start laughing while drinking milk and it comes out your nose and he doesn't laugh, then it's TOO serious.

 

Jody

Do you have a ring?

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Dear Panel,

I'm 14 and I like this 19 year old. He is a friend of my sister and brother and I really like him. We met a few weeks ago and then again last week. We were going to "a place" for the Volleyball Nationals. He was a coach and I was a player.

Anyway we talked a bit there and on the way back home (an 8 hr bus ride) we shared a seat and pillow, and we ended up cuddled up together (really closely). Though we didn't do anything, it felt really good.

I really like him but he has a girlfriend. And I don't know if he likes me because I'm heaps younger then him.

Do you think I am stupid and should just forget it? But I can't stop thinking about him. What do you think I should do?

Female, age 14, Australia

Buddy

Take the bus more.

 

Charlie

Cynth For more on this, check my answer to: "What is Statutory Rape? And Why?"
 Try a cold shower. Then try going after guys who won't get arrested if they go out with you. You are jailbait to a man over 18.

 

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Dear Panel,

Should I marry the person with money or the one with a good heart who cares for me?

- Natalia

Female, Canada

Lefty

If you have to ask, go for the money.

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Dear Panel,

When can I get my answer to the problem I had?

Mo

Now:

Train A from Chicago will meet Train B from New York at 2:45 PM.

It WAS a story problem, right?

 

Real soon. Really. What was your question again?

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