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| Dear Panel, I am a divorced mother of four. A couple years after my divorce my eldest daughter accosted me about the fact that I had not been dating and if I had no plans to re-marry. After much thought about the matter, I started dating. Since then I've had disasters after disasters. Then I realised that my children, especially my eldest were turning my partners off. Now the problem is with my second eldest daughter. She is covertly unpleasant to whomever I am dating, and my relationships are shortlived. I am very lonely for a companion, but no one seems good enough. I am presently dating a very nice person, with whom I see the possibilty of a future. The minute she realised the relationship is serious she starts with her surly behaviour.And as before he now is feeling the tension. I am tired of her behaviour. Should I cave in and not see anybody? The situation is very stressful. It is depressing me and I know it is now affecting my relationship as I am becoming insecure, jealous and clingy. I am 44-years-old. What should I do? – Childwhipped Female, age 44, England | |
 | Talk to your daughter, maybe she is uncomfortable with you dating! |
 | Gently inform your daughter that your life is your own and that she |
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| Dear Panel, I am ready to lose it. What happens and does it hurt? If so, how bad and is there anything extra I should know? – Brandy Female, age 18, USA | |
 | Some days I'm ready to lose it, too. Usually I can take a walk and it calms me down. |
 | If you're talking about your virginity, from what I've heard, it depends on each girl whether it hurts or not. The only other thing you should know is do it because it's someone you love, not because you want to have sex. Meaningful sex is much better than meaningless sex. |
 | Hmm...you ask "what happens" and you say you are ready to "lose it"? You MUST be joking!! |
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| Dear Panel, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months & I moved 2 hours away. Lately he's been sounding upset on the phone. He says it's because of family issues. I've been trying to get him to explain it more but he won't. How can I comfort him? Or what should I do? Its really upsetting me when I hear him like that. – Kel Female, age 17, Canada | |
 | Drive 2 hours and see if a couple of hugs can make him feel better. |
 | The best comfort is being there for him. |
| | Keep talking to him on the phone, and maybe try to arrange a time when you both can get together. He might open up a bit more in person. |
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| Dear Panel, I love my boyfriend so much, but this past weekend we got into a fight and he went out with his friends got drunk and, so he says, tried to cheat on me, but he couldn't. He says that he passed out from drinking and woke up with his pants unzipped with a hicky. But doesn't know who he got it from because he passed out. What do I do? – JM1123Female, age 18, USA | |
| | Start by not believing silly made-up stories, or boyfriends who blame their actions on drinking. |
 | Unzip his pants and look for evidence! If he is telling the truth, get rid of him. If not, give him a good telling off. He has no right to attempt to make you feel jealous and insecure just because you had a fight. What kind of a guy IS he? |
 | Get him to grovel and buy you lots of presents! |
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| Dear Panel, I am in need of advice. My ex is living with a girl who is 22 and 9 months pregnant by another man. He and I have a 5-year-old little girl together. I am so afraid that he will stay with this girl and help her raise her baby. He has every other weekend with my daughter and does not contact or see her until it's his weekend. I am just afraid he will make a family with this girl and be with her and her baby. Will a man stay with a pregnant woman even if the baby is not his? He has kids of his own with 2 other women. – Lonley Female, age 31, USA | |
| | He will if he believes he's truly in love with her. |
 | He's a man, anything is possible. They have been known to do even dumber things. |
 | This is such a difficult situation and my heart goes out to you and your |
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| Dear Panel, I love my husband very much. He is trustworthy. I am afraid when he sees any female. I started fighting with him. Tell me the solution soon. – Sof Female, age 23, India | |
| | Imagine that he loves and trusts you as much as you do him. |
 | Get jelousy counseling! |
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| Dear Panel, I am an attactive older man, with a somewhat attractive younger girl friend and we have been living together for 7 years. I just caught her cheating, in an obvious way. It's the second time in our relationship, the first time was in our first year together. Now she says that she is sorry that she hurt me, and that she will end her relationship with the other guy. But she can't promise that it won't happen again. Now I'm no saint, and I have had a few relationships for sex, but she never caught me. But she says that she loves me as a father, and that she will never be happy with me, but she wants to stay until she get's a job, and an apartment. The problem is that after all these years, I realize that I really love her, and I don't want to lose her. How can I learn to hate her so I can move on to one of the other women who constantly say they want to be with me. I am rich and somewhat famous, but I am about to be very rich and my lawyer tells me to get rid of her. – Love to Hate for Cash Male, age 49, Washington DC | |
 | Omigod! George? George Clooney?!?! |
 | Your lawyer is right. Hate her by thinking about someone else making love to her. Then think about her making love to you while thinking of you as a father figure. Then ask yourself how twisted and sick she is and why you would want to stay with her. Beware....she might be entitled to your new wealth under common law marriage provisions. Dump her before you get the cash. |
| | You are so messed up: you love her and she considers you a father figure; you've cheated on her, you don't want to lose her, but you want to dump her. Then there's the fact that, no offense, but you also sound like a pompous jerk. I say, follow your lawyer's advice, and also buy yourself some time with a shrink with all that money coming in. |
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| Dear Panel, If the two guys I have had a crush on won't dance with me, and they give the same reason, what is the solution to this problem? – Tina Female, age 23, Florida | |
| | Don't let them talk to each other. |
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| Dear Panel, I understand that you have to offer advertising to sponsors in order to keep this site free. Today when I came in I was BOMBARDED by ad's, at one time I had 7 different ads appearing on my screen and to be honest it's really annoying. Is there anything that can be done to stop this? – NotBuyingIt Female | |
| | Hey, those ads are netting Mr. Sensitive tens of dollars PER MONTH! |
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| Dear Panel, I've been arguing with all of my friends because we all just graduated from high school and they are dating 16-year-olds. We are all almost 20. Is that wrong? I know when we were younger we all dated people that were 21 and up. – Violet Vane Female, age 19, Florida | |
 | Depends on the age of consent in your state. You should just do what you think is right and not worry about what your friends do. |
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| Dear Panel, My boyfriend only got the head in. Am I still a virgin? – Confused Female, age 15, USA | |
| | Did his tongue move? |
| | The bigger question is, nine months from now will there be a head coming out? |
| Sorry, that's the last question. Read the 12 Snappy Answers again
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